Want to sleep and can’t? The harder we try to will ourselves to sleep the harder it becomes.
Just do the and think the opposite, will yourself to stay awake, try to stay awake.
You will fall asleep.
It’s a way of relaxing and not pressuring about the outcome.
The harder we try to create an outcome it brings a negative resistance.
Let go, think and do the opposite, whatever that is, it releases all the tension and then the outcome is not the focus.
I grew up with phrases like ‘if you can’t stand the heat get out the kitchen’, thanks to tough guys like Harry Truman who coined the phrase.
A macho bullshit line to basically say toughen up or you’re a loser if you can’t take the ‘heat’.
But being ‘tough’ is not the answer in some ‘put up with everything’ type environment allowing people to treat others badly. There is nothing clever, smart or tough about treating people like shit. It is just shit.
We will not ever be able to build an empathetic and people focused culture unless we move away from this being ‘tough’ mentality. It is about as appropriate to the world, as say, a steam powered loom would be now.
Getting the best from people comes from understanding not from ‘toughening’ them up and trampling all over their emotions and needs.
We do not need to subject people to ‘heat’. We need to create a safe, non-judgemental environment that inspires, supports and cares about them, allowing them to be vulnerable and open.