The self-discipline trap

We can shortcut self-discipline by blocking sites, putting a lock on the fridge, not having chocolate cakes in the house, not buying cigarettes to stop smoking and removing from our lives things we can not seem to stop taking, having, doing and so on.

But it is just that. It’s a trap. We believe that we have overcome a habit or dealt with a demon. We haven’t really overcome something, we have simply ‘handcuffed’ ourselves, blocked it out, but deep down the behaviour is still there.

The hard part is to stop eating cake when the cake is sat right in front of us.

To do that we have to understand why we keep doing something and then to change our habits.

Blocks, locks, and denial are a short-term fix, building a habit without the block based on a desire to want to change, is the only long-term solution.

We will only apply the real self-discipline needed to build the habit that creates lasting change once we are inspired to do so.

Seek the demon, explore why we behave that way, build strategies and then apply new habits to change that behaviour.

It’s easier said than done, but if we want lasting change, there is has to be a trade between easy fixes and commitment.

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One thought on “The self-discipline trap

  1. Great stuff Philip, thanks for sharing! 🙂

    As you say, forming healthy habits is hard and it’s important to have the right motivation to make lasting changes. I find that to successfully implement habits we need to have a big reason why which holds value to us and we’re not just doing it because we feel like we have to or someone else is doing it too.

    I think this helps to inspire lasting change, as you’ve mentioned above that short-term fixes are exactly that.

    Loving the content, keep doing what you’re doing 🙂

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